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EPISODE: Episode 1
Analyzing their different boxing styles, and how this epic battle is being compared to others from the past.
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I am one of the co-founders and Chief Operating Officer for the Stafford Boxing Club Incorporated our non-profit organization, which is a yearly mentoring program for at-risk youth in the community.
So we will be able to teach financial literacy communication discipline decision making, as well as campaigning for a premium education.
These are the foundation for the Stafford Boxing Club, these 20 mentees in our program here at Panola Way elementary school three years from now, staff for boxing mentees will be known across the world: [ Music, ], hello and welcome to the Stafford show.
I am your host lady staffer and my co-host Stafford aka Big Stafford, aka, Big staff.
We would like to thank you for being here with us today and you can also listen to the podcast.
The show on audio.
Please go to www.
talknfight.
com [, Music ] baby.
You know what I I thought she was artificial intelligence, hey y’all, that’s why I’m looking I’m like what, where you can also see it, live and participate, but then the conversation you can also get notifications on LinkedIn and Facebook man.
Thank you, man, man can.
I leave for this artificial intelligence man, I’m telling you man, man, what’s up everybody, how y’all doing today, I’m glad that y’all tuning in to the staff of boxing? Oh, no, oh, my bad.
The Stafford show he’s extra excited.
I’M excited, I’m excited, I’m excited! I’M excited! You know the ultimate showdown between Earl, Spence and Terence Bud Crawford.
This is some people say it’s the fight of the year.
I think it’s the fight of the decade, not the century, no, because there was another fight too, with Sugar, Ray Leonard, who was welterweight, champ and also Hearns, Thomas Hearns, and that was actually one of the biggest fights as well in history.
It was called The Showdown quote-unquote – the fight – oh yeah, oh yeah, because Thomas Hearns held the WBA welterweight title.
So we know Sugar Ray Leonard had that boxing IQ and he had the Speed and Agility and Hearns would just impose what he wants to do on somebody.
That’S what I’m saying? That’S a fact, that’s a fact, man so uh I wanted to kind of like you know, before we jump into the podcast.
I wanted to kind of talk about some things that you know we’ve experienced this past week, and one of the things I want to talk about is wait a minute.
I think I know I think I know what you’re gon na bring up.
Was it on the 19th? Yes, and it was on a Wednesday and it was at the DeKalb County Public Library, yeah.
Oh okay, go for it so this past week we had our event.
Um reading 2023 uh for the Stafford Boxing Club mentoring program, we had about 10 of our 25 kids to show up.
It was amazing, it was amazing.
It was so good that I I don’t know I was so just just looking at the pictures.
Just thinking about the faces that we saw and how grateful they were and seeing the kids reunite with each other, because the last time they saw each other was at graduation.
And I I was saying to myself like because we listened to God, we are able to bless these kids man and it’s a it’s a it’s a sacrifice, but I think that in our community more of us need to sacrifice personal gain for the betterment of our Community and so we have an opportunity to impact Generations, you know what I mean it’s so like the girl showed up with their staff.
For boxing Polo it was just man, the guy.
You know we only had two guys show up, but the other guys, the other boy excuse me.
They were out of town with their parents on vacation and uh.
One of the other uh um mentees mother was in the hospital.
So I hope that she’s doing well, but overall it was a huge success.
The kids were just they were so happy to see us.
I checked out books yeah, they checked out books.
Some of them checked out like three oh yeah books between two to three books.
Oh yeah, and they also went on a tour with one of the Librarians actually she’s, the manager she’s, the manager yeah she’s, the manager.
So they went on a tour.
She gave them a tour, a VIP tour then uh, the library is, uh is uh doing a garden outside, so they went out there.
They went outside and she showed them a garden that the public library is doing and stuff like that.
So we had a great photographer Thomas J Morris is a great photographer.
He done a phenomenal job taking capturing the moment.
Thank you.
We had Lazarus come out.
Um supporters um.
I got from uh CMOS um Kevin Jordan.
Thank you so much sir.
We appreciate you, but let me just get back to the kids real quickly before we move on.
I am so proud of them.
I can see like all the stuff that we instilled in them during the year how it played out like we were just man when I tell you that they are on point like it is a blessing just to see like the Seas that you sown into these Kids and then, when you come back around they on point, I’m talking about they on point and the most improved is Michonne.
Yes, Michelle is the most improved kid in our program at first you’re gon na tell it go ahead, so we kept talking to Michonne through our DM said.
Michonne me tighten up, so it got to a point that every time we walk into the school, the kids say Michonne did this.
Michelle did that.
So we kept talking Sean, I’m tired of walking to this school and every time we walk into school, the kids talking about how you not acting the way you supposed to be acting and all these kids want to take your spot.
So it led up to the point where we had tribunal, and so we was in Miss Norris class and it was my wife Miss Norris.
It was me, and so we had a conversation, so I said well Sean here’s where we at we’ve been talking to you and talking to you and talking to you and we haven’t seen any change.
So I tell you what this is.
What we’re going to do? We’Re going to vote on whether or not you stay in the program, so miss Norris was like nah uh.
Now it’s first Miss Missouri first, Miss Norris, yeah, yeah yeah, but at first Miss Norris said that you can go first and I said well.
I already know what Sheila gon na do because she was tired of talking to Michonne, and so I said Michelle.
This is what we’re gon na.
Do we’re gon na go with Miss Norris.
So it’s three votes, it’s an odd number.
So if two agreed, then it is, is so it’s Noah’s rolling.
She said well, I was looking at the data with that data she kept.
You know she said.
I’M gon na have to vote him out the program and I already knew as soon as Miss Norris came down with her vote.
I was I did my head like this, because I already knew where she was going and I was like Michonne.
You put me in a no-win situation because you know I’m a roll with my wife.
Now I said man I tried to tell you man, I’m gon na get to this point so Michonne.
He was at the program so but the Holy Spirit – God spoke to me, said man don’t give up on me.
Sean don’t give put him back in the program.
I said: okay, Lord I’m gon na do it so I called his mother talked to his mother.
Say: hey, I want to come, get Michonne, you know we have an event, etc, etc.
She said I tell you what I’m gon na do.
I drop them off at an after-school program and you can go pick him up.
I tell them when you’re coming to pick him up and I was like okay cool and when I had got off the phone with his mother Sheila and she was like you can go pick them up yeah and I was like man like that’s trust.
Yeah like she sees the impact and the importance of our program and how it positively impacted Michonne that she entrusted me to go pick up her son at the after-school program.
So I went to go pick Michonne up last week and man.
Let me tell y’all this boy here was so different.
He at first he was he.
I think he felt like when he saw me yeah.
He had to kind of like he was walking on needles yeah, but then what I wanted to do was I didn’t want him to feel that way.
So I kind of just did a woosa, and I told him because he had been on my spirit.
I ain’t gon na lie.
He had that’s why, when you said that, then I knew that I was hearing from the holy spirit, so we were together on that one and then it was something that you said about not giving up.
Now.
There are times that when a person or a child starts doing certain things, and it’s like there’s nothing that you can do about it, no matter what you do, no matter what you say, no matter how you act, I get it, but I do understand that.
Sometimes you can’t give up on the kids yeah, but sometimes with parents.
You just have to let go and let God because it’s like I just I don’t know anymore but I’m sure, but with Marshawn yeah, his mother, told his whole demeanor his whole posture, his role, all his mannerism, see that had to happen yeah and that’s yeah that Had to happen, he had to be broken.
Yeah yeah, he had to realize how fortunate um he was to be in our program, and his mother knows that we were going above and beyond foreign that we will do with most of the kids in our program.
Well, I say some of them, but I went out my way personally because I see something in Michonne that resonate with me and my upbringing, and so I wanted to be there for him.
You know what it is.
Thank you, I think, because of Gregory and him oh okay, I didn’t mean you know what I mean I didn’t.
I didn’t.
I didn’t put two and two together right now, yeah you get it now.
I got it so so that’s why I’m I’m you know I.
I really want to walk with Michonne, because I I I can identify with him on a personal level and I share that one day, but so when I went to go pick him up and I you know first of all he had on the staff of boxing Polo I mean he was clean with it and I said: hey Michelle, how you doing how you doing sir, and he said, sir, I was like okay.
Let me see what it’s doing.
That’S, let me showing you um.
I asked him a question.
He said yes, sir.
He said yes, sir, he said.
Thank you, sir man.
I mean his whole.
Demeanor was just man, he was different man, we would man, I picked him up in the car, we were driving and he was like.
I said Michelle I’ll, be right back.
I need to go get this.
He said, okay, sir, and one of the things that we demand for from our kids and our program is that you must address US.
Yes, sir.
Yes, ma’am it’s important because I’m from that old school and I see how in society, if you go into a place of business, and if you say yes, sir, and no ma’am and thank you ma’am, and thank you, sir, how you set yourself apart from other people And people are willing to help you because they see that you are well mannered and when you’re well, marinered people will go above and beyond to assist you so I’m trying to well.
We are instilling in that into our kids so that they can have an advantage, because we want them to have an advantage compared to other people, and that’s just because they’re part of under our recovery.
We, we are not their parents, we are not their legal Guardians.
What we are is positive role models, a husband and a wife being something that’s missing in our community.
Are we going to save every kid? No, but the ones that God sends in our direction we’re going to do our best to instill in them.
The things that we see and know from us living and being in certain uh uh circles and and achieving certain things in life what you must have in order to be successful, so we are instilling any kids early on about college.
We receive uh the mission uh booklets yeah.
I have to get some more yeah, so we got ta get two more uh, because Marion got to get one yeah Miriam has to get one.
Hazel has to get one.
I probably get four just in case so in for the Dual program when they get to high school high school.
Yes, so basically kids can go to high school and then they can also earn college credits.
So when they graduate from high school, their first would graduate with their associate’s degree, and then they acquired their high school diploma.
So it’s a dual enrollment, so we saw in this seeds and our kids now going into the sixth grade.
So now we have an opportunity to just kind of be a farmer and keep nurturing this like.
This is what we want.
This is what we want.
This is what we want, and another thing I want to thank all the parents Sheila that brought the kids out oh yeah, to our event, and it meant a lot to us that the parents was involved and they interested bye or they would come in.
I gave them a hug, I talked to him for a moment and then they left and then they just telling you a call or you had to call a parent and then they would just and we took a couple of them home yeah and you know, what’s Something I didn’t tell you, I don’t know where you where, where you was, but it was um, it was me Thomas.
What’S the young, I keep on forgetting her name.
I called her the wrong name, the one who I had to help when she had in in the in the class, and she took oh B Chanel, okay and the other young lady that was there Chanel.
I forgot her name which one okay, but it was on.
My karma yeah, it was three, it was three of us in there.
Okay, so it was you Karma no and it was um.
He was in there too.
I I shed a tear and I think the reason why I did that was because getting up when I talked to my auntie yeah yeah, I kind of got emotional and just telling them just that.
We truly love them and we want the best for them.
Yeah, that was crazy, because I don’t I don’t do.
That was the first time that I actually said that I would you know I love you know I love y’all.
I told Marion the other day when we stopped by Friday.
I was like love.
You she’s, like I love you too, and you know what to to to actually have the kids say that to you yeah man, it really means a lot.
So man, we gon na post, uh the picture on social media because you know one thing: I’m not.
I know that social media can be a tool to help advance or share light on the things that you do in the community and stuff like that, and – and I get that you know, but I it’s just certain.
We we just yeah.
We we because of privacy yeah for the family yeah, not only that though, but we we want to share some of those moments for when we get our building yeah and and the only way that you can see.
These pictures is that you come visit, so we’re trying to create tractions just have them like.
Let me not talk too much because I’m not trying to, but overall it was a very successful uh event.
I want to thank our sponsor, truest man, man.
Thank you.
So much Sarah Welch um man.
I want to thank uh Walmart and shout out to uh Amanda Marcy.
She is the lady that makes the decision for water beverages.
Excuse me, water and beverages for for Walmart, like she do billion dollars worth of business for Walmart.
In that sector, when it comes to making the final decision she’s the one she’s, the one and Amanda I want to say thank you for giving us the opportunity the time and I didn’t get an opportunity to meet you.
But I was listening in on both conversations.
Telephone conference video conference call that you had with Sheila and Walmart has done a remarkable job preparing you to to to be the leader in that position.
The way that you talk, how you you know just focus you about business man.
I have so much respect for that and but but like what Sheila was saying.
Thank you for the opportunity.
Unfortunately, it didn’t go the way that you know we would have planned, but I told Sheila that it wasn’t your fault, because you prepared um for the for the first telephone first video conference call, then you then, then you prepared for the second video conference call, because If you didn’t impress a man of the first time, you wasn’t going to get a second and I I want to say something, and I don’t mean to offend anyone.
But when you are given an opportunity in life period, man come prepared, do not take, I mean, do your research do your homework dress accordingly, you know what I’m saying like, because you may not get that opportunity, because your first impression is your last impression be prepared.
Put your ego aside, if you have a team, rely on your team to step in and speak for you whatever, like me personally like when all right, I would have my team do a lot of the talking, because I just sit back and be like.
Okay, go ahead, you know I’m more of a delegator.
You know what I’m saying.
Like I delegate this you do this.
You say that okay, you do this.
You do that.
So it’s a game plan.
It’S a team effort.
I might be the quarterback, but I need a tight end.
I need a running back.
I need, I need a guard.
I I need some good wide receivers.
I need a good play caller.
I need all that, so A team is very important.
Sometimes a leader may have to go into a situation where it’s one-on-one, but when opportunities like this will Walmart come man, you can’t play it’s thousands, thousands and thousands of people reaching at Walmart every day trying to get into their stores.
And when you get someone who makes that decision man, you got to be on point bro, because it’s not only you who’s affected by the outcome.
It’S everyone who’s invested in you and in the product or whatever situation.
May it may be so that everyone can walk away feeling like you’ve done your job and when one person don’t do their job, it affects the whole team, so man just be prepared, but Amanda.
Thank you.
So much we’ll definitely be in contact with you again not going to waste your time because we just felt like she she already knows, but shout out to Paul who had a fight not too long ago with celebrity boxing.
Oh yeah.
He has been a great supporter.
Great supporter for the um Staffordshire period and his son also had a fight as well, so they both won.
Oh really yeah.
This was a celebrity boxing.
I don’t know how old his son is, but they actually they both won, and we were talking about Terence Crawford because he had made a post or I made a post.
Well, he made a post and then I had made a post and I told he said that he’s going with Crawford, I said: I’m going with Crawford, you know Crawford is a WBO welterweight.
So one of the reasons why I’m going with Crawford is even though I like Spence and I like Crawford, but look he had.
He can change from south from southpaw to Orthodox.
That’S something that only a few Fighters can do and to my personal opinion that can be confusing because you can switch it on and off.
You don’t know when they’re going to actually change plus he has great counter punching power.
We got good footwork too.
That too, and also some Ko’s, some knockout Powers, I’m this is my final decision.
I told everybody I was going to make my decision, so I’m going with Terence Crawford a nice amount of people are going with terrorists.
I I don’t.
I mean I like it and if I’m wrong I’m wrong, I, like you, Earl Spence Junior, I like you, but for some reason I’m just I mean we’re Crawford because Spence is an ibf WBC yeah, but but but but Earl Smith’s got all the belts, though he Got that green one? Okay, but that’s good too, because he does have some great punching.
Uh body punches some good, some exceptional technical skills, so this is really going to be a great fight, it’s also being based off of Muhammad Ali and Joe Frazier’s fight that I believe what was it.
Was it March 8th of 1961.
? I don’t know you you’ve done some research March 8th of March 8th, oh and one more thing I want to say because Muhammad he had some some some speed man, you know like.
Oh, I said you know my bad.
I was just about to.
I missed that one out, y’all, hey, we got ta, do better like how you ride down the street and we get to a stop sign you talking about garbage again yeah, and so someone went through our garbage yeah.
So the other day when we’re driving they just you know just throw trash out.
You know it’s like man.
This is crazy and, and then, when you like, I was in the parking lot and like the the the the garbage can is right there right there.
The only thing you have to do is just put the trash like right there.
You can just you, you can just throw it and you just you just you just that really bothers you yeah, because it’s like when you go to other communities, you don’t see that.
Well, occasionally you might, but it’s not us, but but it’s not them doing it.
It’S us going out into their Community.
I’Ve seen somebody not like us, but I said on a few a few occasions, but mostly but mostly Sheila space, but but mostly Sheila.
They keep their community clean and and and also like, when you use the baskets the shopping carts, the shopping, I mean the the shopping, cart.
Rack will be right.
There and they’ll put it like right here.
They put it up on the curb and every curve.
You know how the tree is there and then they have the little and not being sensitive or mindful of it rolling back and it’s scraping up somebody’s car.
It’S it’s no consideration for others.
It’S all about me, and so the kids see that so it’s a repeated Behavior, that’s passed down from generation to generation, and that needs to come to a stop man.
We need to stop being that lazy, that we don’t want to uh.
Take the trash.
That’S in our vehicles and put it in the trash can now I didn’t make us so when I do have trash I’ll put it our trash in that bag and then wherever we go I’ll put in.
But you know what, since you’re talking about that, I’m I I can feel you on that.
But you know what I get frustrated with.
Is the women in the in the female locker rooms that are just so not clean like if you just use the bathroom on the the toilet like if you’re urinating? I know we always look back to see if there’s anything on the toilet.
All you have to do is just get some tissue and just wipe it off or if you’re on your personal, can you just wrap it up and not leave it on the floor and on the toilet, seats and all in the toilet and stop getting Globs of Toilet paper, I’m talking about Globs and toilet paper and it’ll just be in the toilet, or if you use the bathroom bathroom, you just leave it right there in the toilet.
So when you walk in you’re, like oh my gosh, what did I just walk into crazy man? I saw something that I did not want to see.
Man we got ta do better.
We we got to do better and – and I’m not talking to the other community, I’m talking to our community and then they’d be stealing the stuff from out the um.
You know the gym that we go to the lady who works there.
She literally told me they walk out with weights man, I’m still in the way bro y’all trip with weights.
That’S why she said they have such a gap with all the weights, and then I forgot.
What do you call it um? Where you put your foot in and you can work out your hamstrings, oh, oh, the the strap yeah they they took that they had about four of them and they taken taken the straps.
So then, when you do that all you’re making is for the membership prices to go up even higher, they got the they got the recoup.
You know what I thought.
I know how to be a good Steward over something that that that’s not theirs, which then tells me that they’re not a good Steward over their own things, that God has blessed them with no and and and I’m with you on that Shield like we got to Do better we got to do better, we got to do better and not publicizing so much foolishness that our kids think the foolishness is a reality and then, when they get up age and it’s time for them to fend for themselves, mentally uh and spiritually and maturity.
Wise they’re not capable, and so now you have disabled them from becoming independent to the point that they become dependent and when they become dependent, then they can’t be effective in the community and then they get lost in the sauce in the system.
And so you start crying and my child is my child that well it starts in the beginning and I’m not saying that I’m a perfect person or I haven’t been a perfect parent whatever, but as I’ve grown and matured, I start correcting things and so that now That I got to a certain level, God has entrusted Sheila and I with other folks kids, because we made some mistakes, that we say that we’re not not going to repeat, and so with these kids we’re not repeating those same mistakes and so we’re instilling in them.
Things that we know is going to benefit them and so we’re trying to do our little part.
You know it takes a whole lot, but a little part can make a big difference and that’s what we need to focus on the little things in life.
Not so much the big things, because the little things will eventually get to the bigger things and so line upon line precept upon precept, you can’t go from the first grade to the fifth grade.
You got to go first, second, third, fourth, then, fifth, when you get to the fifth you prepare for it, so we have uh what 25 now going to different middle schools, and so this year, we’ll have another 25 coming in.
So we’re going to be expanding and uh yeah.
I had to take a deep breath, but you know what I want to say: sorry for interrupting.
You know before I forget to the pre-teens and to the teens, because we we do talk to some of them, but we, like I said in our program, is just fifth graders.
Let me just put you all up Fifth and now: sixth graders yeah, fifth and sixth graders.
So let me just put you all up on some game: stop being disrespectful to your parents, stop listening to your so-called friends who are really not your friends, because as soon as you get into trouble, depending on what type of trouble you get into, who you’re going To be calling for mobile, the other thing is you’ll know who your real friends are is if you ever do get into that type of situation, or if you decide to change for the better.
The other thing is, families need to start coming together and not being separate, and what I mean by that is whether, if you are getting married and the kids are yours and the husbands or if you’re, getting married and it’s the kids are not the wives or The kid or the kids or not the husbands family may not at first really be linked on like that, but you do have to be respectful and you also have to be careful.
What you’re telling the other kids, because now you’re causing issues Within the home that the child or the children live in and then also you’re missing out on your blessings and then the children are missing out on their blessings and kids.
Let me just tell you something: all parents, I know are not going to be perfect.
All parents know we don’t know everything and no, we don’t do everything right, but there are a lot a lot.
A lot a lot of parents out there that truly love you and they want the best for you and they are trying their hardest to make sure that not only do you get the things that you want, but the things that you need.
You have a house that you can go into in and out anytime, you want.
Unless you have a curfew, you can open up the refrigerator.
You have food, you have drink, you have AC now.
Sometimes some people may not have all those things shoot.
You might be sleeping on the floor.
You might be sleeping on what do those beds? You call that you put the air mattress.
Oh air, mattress, you might be sleeping in on an air mattress.
You all might be sleeping in one room, but if you see your parent, your guardian or your parents really trying their hardest they’re going work with them and they’re they’re trying to um have communication with your teachers.
Sometimes they might fall just a little bit because they’re that tired and then you’re eating you might not be able to eat that four course meal or that baked chicken and all that but you’re eating.
Something be grateful for that, because that is not going to last long, but you have to do your part by not stressing out your parents and doing and washing the dishes contributing to the house taking out the trash and not having an attitude.
I’M watching no dishes.
I’M taking out no garbage bro, keep your room clean, oh man, why are you coming up in my room, bra wearing doggone uh, a hoodie in 90 degree weather with some Timber boots on and Sheila? I think what you’re saying is is so profound shout out to my Auntie Mary and we need to, and we need to definitely uh stay on top of that, because these kids are not being respectful to their parents and that’s something that I I do not like.
Like I saw uh, what’s her name, no Gabrielle, okay, so her grandmother, right, yeah, so totally different.
So I realize it’s a new generation now right, so we gave them a whole bunch of snacks, just a lot of stuff.
They walked away boxes.
They had to walk out with boxes right and so Gabrielle wanted her grandmother to carry the Box.
What are they doing? I’M like Gabrielle, what you talking about.
Well, it’s about the [ __ ].
What you do is you put the box down.
You rearrange the things in the box so that the stuff that won’t fall out the box – and you pick the box back up.
I said: don’t you ever, I better not never find Out Boy look at here to get real, don’t play with me.
Don’T play with me, don’t play with me: you play with them, do not play with me.
I do not play with kids.
I don’t tell her about this too, oh yeah, and that nose ring that clip on you’re not being Gabrielle, you being influenced by what you seeing on the internet and TV.
That’S why we that that, after school and summer program it’s important, it’s neither for the kids.
It’S important man, it’s important it’s important and help is on the way I’m gon na go ahead and speak.
That help is on the way, help us help us help us on the way, because we are demonstrating that we can be faithful over few and we’re making the best the most of what we have received us so far, and I think that Sheila based upon the Product that we put out and the things that you know the impact man, it’s just a matter of time that we have everything that we pray for and work hard for, because you know, I believe, God understands our heart.
Yes, people can’t see our heart, but God can – and he know that we have good hearts for kids and we want to do right and we want to you know, guide them in the right direction.
But one thing we’re not tolerating that disrespect so Gabrielle.
If your grandmother called me and tell me that you you did it I’m coming to see you and you know, when I come and see, you know we’re not going to have no this.
No I’m coming and we’re gon na have a conversation because you begged us to get into the program.
Oh, she was the one that had me hemmed up in the car him.
Oh, but three other young girls, oh miss, miss, Mr because she came to me first.
She said, Mr Stafford, can I be in your program.
I said no, I said you got ta go talk to my wife, because I am a man of order.
I don’t want no little girls coming to me and asking me now.
You’Re gon na talk to my wife and see what she gon na say about that.
Now little boys, you come to me and then I’m gon na send to to my wife.
So she can make a final decision.
But I don’t you know to me: everything is about order if you’re not in order, then that ain’t, God and you’re not gon na get too far with us period, because we are people of order, and I want to give a shout out to Chris from um Rx, water and man, he had text me something today and I was like Chris man like man like my brother, like that’s something, because no nobody would do that.
No, nobody would do that.
I want.
Where are the? Where are Christians, Christmas amen? God bless you brother for real.
Thank you man.
Thank you man, because we trying to resolve this situation and you stepping up when it don’t it.
It involves you, but it doesn’t, but it doesn’t.
You know what I’m saying and I appreciate you for you know.
Just being a man of God, a man, a good character, bro, I’m just I’m getting your card.
There’S one thing about Stafford.
If, if you do the right thing by me, I’m go I’m I’m gon na honor, you bro, and I don’t have no problem.
I don’t have no problem because you, you know our work bro, you, you know our contribution.
You know that we done things from the heart and we was led, but due to some things that that came about, we are godly people, but we have wisdom and we’re not gon na.
Let nobody finesse us or or disrespect us when we’ve been nothing but A1, and you know that and for that I I respect you bro and and if, if it, if it was a different situation on our behalf, I’d be like man.
We only want that.
Bro yeah, we don’t even want that, but we’re in this situation and you stepping up to it and you know, helping us resolve the situation and and it’s only fair, it’s only fair and it’s right.
Man – and I appreciate you – and I wanted to take this moment to to to you – know to honor you and give you your cards, give you your flowers.
No, I don’t.
I don’t like flaws, give him uh, what’s a what’s a manly thing, but what what do y’all like um man? Let me give you a trophy yeah: okay, yeah! Let me let me give you a trophy.
Your first place trophy.
You know what I wanted to say since you said that too, you said that uh correct me if I’m wrong that you had had a conversation with somebody with a guy and the guy was saying that their company, the women, are competing with them.
Oh okay, so so so so let me say this first, so the kids in our mentoring program.
Some do come to me, but the majority come to my husband.
The reason why and it used to bother me and and then I’m going to tie everything together and then he’s going to talk about it because see my husband has been doing this longer than me.
So he has been.
What is the word? You have been exposed and groomed by God by God, and then God allowing him to be around certain people and businesses and organizations right, whereas with me IBS, I was going to clubs running the streets hanging with the wrong type of people.
When I say hanging on the streets, no, I was not prostituting.
I was just hanging out with a certain group of people.
Let me get that clear, so I did not use my time wisely at all, but my husband did, but he wasn’t perfect.
He did some things or whatnot, but the thing about him is: he stayed on course, and he was at least he was balanced.
So hey, you can’t say anything about that and it used to bother me and I did start feeling some type of way.
I wasn’t trying to compete with him.
I think I started feeling uh feeling some type of jealousy, because my husband has a gift and he can speak, he can talk, he can read something and he can just remember it and he can talk about it me.
I have to have the book I have to underline it and then jot some notes down and then I’ll get it.
I had to look at myself and there’s actually some books that I’m reading and it’s like all of my books that I’m reading is all aligning together.
So I had to look at myself because my situation dealing with certain kids – I wasn’t healed yet and I was still had my heart was I had um, I guess a wall in front of my heart because I felt like I’m giving so much to our mentees, But the ones over here don’t appreciate it been disrespectful and just really made me feel light on me and had made me feel some type of way.
So I couldn’t just I didn’t my heart wasn’t open, so I had to look at myself and do some weeding out and reading God’s word and reading books, and then my husband would tell me and then I have like just a little bit of an attitude because I know that he’s right, so when the god that you spoke with said competing, I never wanted to compete with my husband.
It was just that everything that he knows and he does and how he says how he carries himself, how he speaks, how he just has a bold Spirit, how he can just he can talk to anybody.
He can talk to an Asian.
He can talk to somebody black African-American, uh White Indian.
If I missed anybody else, whereas with me, I’m somewhat, I’m not scared and I’m not intimidated, but I’m just somewhat closed off a little bit but you’re getting better.
But I’m getting better and the reason why I’m sharing this with everyone, especially with the women, is because it’s it’s okay to change and change is going to be very uncomfortable.
Sometimes it may make us mad.
Sometimes it’s going to have us have an attitude.
Sometimes we are going to cry sometimes when, like someone like, my husband will say: Sheila you didn’t do such and such and such and it’s like he did today.
He told me something today he’s like you are not up on your game.
I don’t know how many times I have to tell you it just isn’t sticking in with you and I’m like yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah you’re, not gon na keep on beating the dead horse up just say it one time, and that is it.
But at the end of the day I know that he’s right.
She do me the same way so it’ll go back, but I think it hits me different because to me at time now everything is on time and God has given me an opportunity and given me a chance and that’s why I don’t want to blow it and I’M not going to, but I think the reason why it hits me different than it does you, because I’m somewhat of a late bloomer, because I, like I said before, I really did not have an education even in elementary school, they just passed me high school.
They just passed me I put in no effort so going from that and then doing things that I had no business doing and acting the way that I had no business acting and not using my time wisely like you did.
I was a late bloomer because I started attending GSU in my 40s, which I’m grateful.
I learned there so now with us doing.
I had to step my game up with the non-profit organization.
So now it’s like I’m back in school because I’m reading these books and and every time we talk to somebody now like Justin, that’s my husband’s friend he’s a lawyer, Randy Justin Miller at Walter uh, Mama B.
I asked them.
What do you read? What where I am now and what we are doing, what books would you suggest that I read so I can just become better and then, when you and Eric were talking you about the CEO and the CEO getting paid, and why would you pay the CEO this Amount of money, if they’re, just bringing in this certain amount of money, which then goes into what Mama B told me to read to listen to so it’s like I I have to now.
It’S like.
I really have to step my game up and it’s and it’s like it’s like it has to be fast, because when we get these employees to work for the non-profit in the gym and the Enterprises, I’m gon na have to be able to well.
We, but I know it’s really going to fall on me.
I have to know or be familiar with the majority of everything that goes on or how we can get the money.
Now I’m not saying I have to do the work because they got to do the work I want to delegate.
I want to do what you do, okay, this this this this this this this this and I’ll do my part, but I don’t want to do all that stuff, but but Sheila.
I want to say this that I was listening to you and I think you, where you’re supposed to be in life oftentimes when people get to this age in life, they don’t want to learn no more, they set in their ways and then they stop growing.
I think that you’re in a very unique situation, because you have that the young uh spirit of wanting to learn their curiosity, that you know that that sometimes Fade Out as you get older in life.
So I think that you can use that.
What you’re saying is a setback as an advantage for you to be to be better than the rest.
That’S coming your way because it takes a person, who’s, confident in themselves and know themselves to even you know, say something like that, particularly on a podcast where you know a lot of people gon na be listening to that you’re, not ashamed to say you know what I found myself having some type of you know, insecurities what you said.
You know, okay, bad, my bad, that you had uh, that you had some insecurities or there may have been a little bit of jealousy or whatever, and so, as we were talking about when I got into the truck today about the conversation that I had with the Gentleman when I was getting us something to eat so today I went to go, get us something to eat and I was just in line and this guy just started talking to me and we just you know, just had a conversation.
So one of the things uh, I don’t even know how I got on this subject, but I was, I told him.
I said man, I’m celebrating this year, 15 years of marriage Faithfully and he looked at me.
He was like you say what I said: yo Faithfully 15.
He said how long I said: yeah 50 said this year will be 15.
and he said: well, what tools did you use and I said, a screwdriver and a hammer because he has some chiseling.
He had to do off to the sides.
I said.
I said it was the word of God.
He said no.
He said, besides that, what what are the tools did you use, and I was like I’m like wait a minute.
You mean to tell me that there is another tool, that’s more powerful than the word of God, and I I just I would just I don’t know I just it just hit me was like man, so I realized that I have so much faith and confidence.
In God’s word than most people, I won’t say most, I don’t know the percentage, but it’s a lot right and they don’t look at the word of God.
The way the way I look at it and how I rely on it and and and how it has been a Lifeline for me and like so now, Sheila has adopted my ways.
My ways is like I get up I read study, then I read other books and stuff like that.
I’Ve been doing that for years.
Ever ever since you’ve known me, that’s what I’ve been I’m a self-educated person.
I read a lot of books um.
I don’t watch TV, I couldn’t tell you what’s what I barely watched the news, I don’t watch the news.
I actually read stuff online and I do that because I want to minimize the type of distraction that allows in my mind and in my spirit I am a very uh, focused man.
I focus on God, I’m walking on water Faith.
It’S a different type of level of faith that you, depending on God, to bless you and guide you and lead you and I’m trying to hear from God as much as I can so that I can make the right decisions.
Making the right decisions is important to me, and so it brings me back to something that I read in uh in Book of Genesis when it said Abraham prospered because he listened to God.
So I’m a listen and obeying God.
So when God tell me to do something, I do it like when he told me to get more shown.
I listen to God right and so the other thing that the gentleman said that he said the black man enemy today is the black woman and he said because they are in competition with each other, and so black men don’t have the support of the black woman.
Because they’re in competition – and so I was like well man – I’m gon na – be honest with you.
I I don’t know nothing about that, because me and Sheila ain’t into no competition.
Ain’T never been, and even when I may see that I I pull that weed because I’m a gardener, you know what I’m saying I if I see a weed I I pull it out, but I want to say that I’m trying to compete with you is just My insecurities and things that’s that’s in you that I would like to have not because I want to be known or anything look at Sheila, it’s just things that you have or things that I need to do.
But that’s good, though, that we’re doing but but like I but but like I explained to you Sheila, I said when I woke up this morning.
I said baby, you saved my life, God I said baby because I I told you I said baby.
If, if I was, if I was with any other woman, it’s no way in the world that I’ll be who I am because they will be trying to change me to what they think I should be.
But when I got with Sheila she didn’t try to change me.
Time allowed me to become the man that God ordained me to be, and so by her allowing that time and not interfering with what God was doing in my life, then I can be everything that I need for her, so that when she see me walk in Different elements of life and different Arenas – my wife is inspired by that, because she’s seen how I’ve become very, very successful in that level, without going to this institution, or this experience or whatever it comes from my uh, my discipline lifestyle.
So what she see is a byproduct of the fruit of the discipline and so but going back to what we were talking about earlier in reference to the competition between the black man and a black woman and – and I’m just saying to myself like is this: the Is if, if the black man and the black woman is in competition with one another, how are we going to survive as a race, because I’m a black man – and this is a black woman and without this black woman there’s no way that I can be a Good black man, now, yes, I have the word of God.
Yes, I stand on it.
Yes, I it’s everything.
It is my lifeline, but without a black woman speaking life into me, who understand what it, what it’s like to be black and what it’s like to face.
Adversity, how can black men become viable in our community if we don’t have strong black women speaking life into them? I heard this woman said she said a lot of men.
Lord Jesus help me hold Mercy.
A lot of men have millionaire uh calling on their life, and, if you are this powerful woman help birth, that millionaire manifestation out that man, a woman she gives birth.
She she Burns things out.
A woman has the ability to speak life into a man or speak death into a man.
A woman is very powerful, but the right woman speaking life into the right man together, you can have something like this here.
Women are impatient.
Some women aren’t patients.
Some just want it here now you don’t want to work for it, not the one to work, for you got to work for it not before.
No, so in order for our community to become what our ancestors paved the way and sacrifice the black man and the black woman has to be on the same Accord, we got to work together so that we can become one and if our black man and black Women don’t come together, then.
How does that affect the next generation of young boys and young girls coming up? I mean you already seeing it the conversation, the disrespect it’s just getting out of hand, but I’m gon na I’m going to continue to stay in prayer and I’m going to believe God will you know, make that change oftentimes he gon na rise up.
Um, individual, maybe be Sheila, maybe maybe be me, I don’t know, but I have heard some some some very promising things, but I want to know what God say and whatever he say, I’m rolling with it.
So I’m gon na continue to change every day, because if you stay the same, you can’t be effective.
So we want to become change agents, so change agents sometimes will make people uncomfortable because of our bold spirit and because we see things in the spirit and I’m not like I’m, not a cookie cutter, I’m something the Lord made.
If I’m in a business meeting and if I see something wrong, I’m gon na speak up on it.
I’M not gon na sit back and hold my tongue or whatever, and I like that.
Book 50 Cent wrote because he was like the first time he’s seen, went into a board board meeting and he’s seen everybody.
But then afterwards, hey man, but that’s how it goes.
You know it’s a lot of Captain Crunch going on, but at the end of the day, business is business, and so I am so grateful for the Stafford show to give us this platform to you know to speak.
What’S on our hearts – and I just want to say thank you so much to talking fight for producing a pro a product that you know not only that they can stand behind, but also promote so shout out to Graham and Eric you guys are amazing.
Thank you for the opportunity.
Thank you.
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